It's that time of year again -- IEP and 504 season, when parents meet with school administrators and teachers to put accommodations and services in place for our kids.
However, I know that many well-meaning teachers and administrators really do not get what the problem is. They often see us as over-protecting our kids (or not working hard enough with them) and they see our kids as lazy, manipulative little snots. Yeah, really.
Even really great teachers who want to help believe that if the student just tried harder that s/he would be successful. They are missing the point. Entirely.
So, for you, your family, your child's teachers -- and mostly for your child -- I give to you the following description of what is really going on. Be on the look out for the 'buzzwords' you might see in progress notes or in emails from your child's teacher. They are code for 'your child is lazy' or 'you don't do enough as a parent'. Do not accept this language!
Okay, here we go:
ADHD and ASD compromise Metacognition – the congruency of awareness of time, place, and self: “I am here, in this place, feeling this way, needing to do this thing now, and that thing next.”
People with severe ADHD continually ‘lose the thread’ of what they are doing or should be doing, and struggle to get back on track as they lack the ‘traffic cop’ of metacognition to remind them. This is not laziness and is the root cause of most of ADHD’s impact.
There you have it -- use this year after year. Remember to NOT let schools 'get by' with language that is damaging, with failure to provide adequate accommodations, or to make YOU responsible for your CHILD'S difficulties. IDEA and Title IV are clear about what schools must provide to make your child successful now -- and in the future!
©2017 EvoLibri Consulting/Jan Johnston-Tyler